I was on the phone with a friend this morning. Let's call this fren "Q" to protect her identity in case someone read my blog and find out who I was refering to. Anyway, she was sharing with me abt this fren of hers who pissed her off (almost totally) recently.
Q has this fren from JC who was in the same class as her. All these while, Q has regarded her as one of her better frens in the class. Until recently, Q's impression of this ger changed totally. It all happened because of a 21st bdae present.
The fren of Q sort of demanded her to get specific stuff for her bdae. She sort of insisted that she wanted this skirt from God-knows-where. Q was so fed up with her because she has no rights to demand for her present. Ended up on the day of the party itself, this fren of Q went up to one of the gers in their clique n asked if they have gotten her wat she wanted.
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Personally, I would have been pissed off totally by this fren of Q and tell her off right into her face. To me, the bdae ger has no rights to demand for her present in such a way! You invited your frens and it is up to them whether they want to give you anything. Even if they cannot get her wat she wants, she should just live with it.
This brings me to my bdae next month.. My clique has been asking me wat I want for bdae. Frankly speaking, I dunno wat I need to. Even if I have, I will not tell. This is not a mind game. I dun need you guys to guess wat I want. I like pleasant surprise. Even if you were to wrap urself up and take a ribbon around your neck, it is still a gift.. I appreciate you as a person. This is something I've learnt as I grow. You dun take frens for granted. They can totally heck your presence too. It means more to me for my frens to put in a little effort in choosing anything for me..
Some frens come and go in life. Some of them I regretted not keeping in touch with. Some whom out of no reason decided to stay away from me and never tell me why until today. I had this fren from sec sch whom I used to be very close with. We were like "glue" until I realised we were the super cheap glue which doesn't stick for long. Until today, I still dunno what's wrong between the both of us to have caused the "break-up". Another fren whom I was closed to. This is the slightly expensive glue which stick for at least quite a while but it went apart and by putting a little of the glue back can actually cause the separated pieces to stick back to a certain extent.
Ok, you might not understand I was talking abt, neither do I. Haha..
Bottomline is to cherish your frens and dun demand for things even if they are close to you. Dun give in to unreasonable demands as well.
To Q: I think you should let your fren noes how u gers feel. Maybe she wasn't aware of her doings. Alternatively, you can heck the fren totally and thank God for seeing her true colours. If your fren is so materialistic, she is not a genuine one. :)